The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box Virtual Book Tour with
Valerie J. Lewis Coleman
Sept 2-13, 2013
Genre: Mainstream Fiction
Paperback: 256 pages
Publisher: Pen Of The Writer, LLC (May 1, 2010)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0978606639
ISBN-13: 978-0978606633
Book Title The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box
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About The Book
What your father didn’t tell you and your mother didn’t know. Successful. Beautiful. Intelligent. Yet a satisfying relationship eludes Debra Hampton. At thirty-five years old, she can’t figure out why her philosophy on men-and what they want from women-isn’t working. She’s trapped in a cycle of shattered relationships, until a friend refers her to a relationship guru. After some resistance, Debra finds refuge in his counsel as he helps her navigate through the storms of rejection and failed love. Once he reveals the error of her ways, will Debra master the forbidden secrets to attract her soul mate or continue to keep love at bay?
About The Author
Valerie J. Lewis Coleman has helped women find relational fulfillment by identifying the four types of male hunters, avoiding seventy percent of men who only want the goody box and winning the heart of Mr. Right-For-You. She explains how she overcame struggles and offers proven techniques to help you get off the crazy cycle of relational demise in her novel The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box! Visit TheGoodyBoxBook.com for the sequel, prequel and upcoming events!
The bestselling author of Blended Families An Anthology, Valerie has helped thousands of families navigate the challenges of child support, visitation, discipline and more. With over twenty years of experience in family and relationships, she has given advice on varying issues including baby-momma drama, defiant children and disapproving in-laws. On her journey to assist others with building strong families, she shares her testimony and provides practical tools to help you stop the stepfamily madness in your home!
The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box by Valerie J. Lewis Coleman
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
This is another of those books that I did not initially plan on giving such a high rating. Don’t get me wrong–the book is fairly well-written, but I was not overly impressed as the stage was set in the beginning. There seemed to be an inordinate amount of characters, and I was concerned this was going to a place I may not have wanted it to go. After all, how could a book where women claimed to be Christians and still slept with their boyfriend be good?
I would say that this book concerns a somewhat realistic (if not bleak) set of stories about a few women who are good friends but don’t always have relationship success. And can’t most women relate to that? How many times do good, Christian, moral young ladies find themselves seeing aside their convictions to try to win the “perfect” man (who is actually not worth their time nor pursuit)? I know I have. I never went quite to the extreme that some of these women did, but the similar thought was there.
I really like “Doc” in this book, and he gives some of the most practical advice about men and relationships that non-fiction books I have read. If you haven’t figured out what the “goody box” is, just use your imagination. The idea is that a woman who does not protect and keep this area from a man is going to have nothing but heartbreak. And that is illustrated dramatically in this story. One of the poor girls does put into practice this advice, and you might be amazed at the results. On the other hand, one of her friends lets her guard down, and the story ends quite abruptly with the idea that she may be making the biggest mistake of her life. I can only hope that sequel in the works!
The nice thing about this book is that there are no bedroom scenes, and the profanity is basically nonexistent. Male and female anatomy are referred to by their proper names, but I don’t see that as a problem. This is definitely a new adult romance, not young adult. The Christian message is within the book, but it is never preachy. While it does not seem to make sense that one would go to church and have illicit sex, it certainly does occur more often than not in this day and age.
If you are looking for a fiction book that just may help you sort out the entire relationship puzzle, this may be the book for you. It is often raw but always real, and I feel as though I have truly connected with the characters.
I was sent a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review. I was not financially compensated, and all opinions are 100 percent mine.
Why I wrote The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box (Guest Post by the author)
I wrote the bestselling novel, The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box, to empower women with proven relationship advice while enjoying an entertaining cast of characters.
My father taught me about the mechanics of sex, but not the emotional component. In the fourth grade, I knew all about Fallopian tubes, uterus, vas deferens, etc. I was a geeky, nerdy, bookworm through high school and into college. This introverted homebody didn’t go to football games, socialize or participate in any other non-academic endeavor except track. My situation was so bad that I created an acronym for GEEK: Getting Experience Education and Knowledge.
Because of my shyness and lack of preparation, I made gobs of mistakes with men. I didn’t have a clue as to how men thought or why men did what they did. With a background in engineering, I was dumber than a bag of rocks when it came to dating and relationships.
Like most women, when I had a man issue, I talked with my girlfriends, sister and mother. Albeit they had a genuine concern for my well-being, the relationship advice was muddled with emotions, past experiences and a limited, skewed perspective on the ways of men. After repeatedly choosing the wrong men, years of heartache and an overabundance of frustration, I finally attracted a great guy. We have been married now for eighteen years. But here’s the deal: I did not know what I did differently to win his heart.
I wanted to understand what actions led me down the aisle of blissful matrimony while many of my girlfriends were still in distress over unrequited love. So as I conducted a self-assessment, I researched and studied men for years. I got the inside scoop on the man – cave, barbershop, locker-room conversations women aren’t normally privy to and developed the top three things every woman must know about men.
I’ll share one nugget of critical relationship advice: men are hunters by nature. And since the day of hunting and killing prey to feed the family is long gone, men use sports, combat and pursuit of the goody box as substitutes. Each of the four types (packs) of hunters uses specific techniques in the quest for the goody box. Like shape-shifters, men morph between packs depending upon maturity, motive and the response of the woman.
Contrary to popular belief, not all men are dogs. Oftentimes, women spend so much time with the wrong type of goody box hunter that Mr. Right-for-You is overlooked. Why? Because of the inability to differentiate between the packs and the devices used to detect, attack, capture and devour the goody box.
I advise my clients that you cannot get mad about the infestation of fleas, when you continue to shop at the dog pound. If you are tired of being his toy—chewed up, buried and then dug up when he wants to “play” again—then you have to do things differently.
Compiling my journey and research findings, I penned The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box to answer what your father didn’t tell you and your mother didn’t know. The novel is my contribution to help women become man whisperers by offering sound, unbiased relationship advice from men.
Valerie J. Lewis Coleman has helped thousands of women find relational fulfillment. With over twenty years of experience in family and relationships, this expert has given advice on various issues including identifying the four types of male hunters, avoiding seventy percent of men who only want the goody box and winning the heart of Mr. Right-For-You. As she assists others with building strong relationships, she shares how she overcame personal struggles and offers proven techniques to help you get off the crazy cycle of relational demise in her bestselling novel, The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box! To learn more about Valerie, her books and overcoming relational matters, visit TheGoodyBoxBook.com.
The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box – What your father didn’t tell you and your mother didn’t know
Successful. Beautiful. Intelligent. Yet a satisfying relationship eludes Debra Hampton. At thirty-five years old, she can’t figure out why her philosophy on men—and what they want from women—isn’t working. She’s trapped in a cycle of shattered relationships, until a friend refers her to a relationship guru. After some resistance, Debra finds refuge in his counsel as he helps her navigate through the storms of rejection and failed love. Once he reveals the error of her ways, will Debra master the forbidden secrets to attract her soul mate or continue to keep love at bay?
“A brilliant writer. I love her work. The characters are so real, so rich and fleshed out so well. You hit the nail on the head with these women. Can I have the rights to the movie?”
Mother Love, TV and radio host of The Mother Love Show
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The Forbidden Secrets of the Goody Box
What your father didn’t tell you and your mother didn’t know
Chapter 1
For the Love of Vincent
Sunday-morning service stirred Debra Hampton’s heart. The poignant message convinced her to resolve a matter that had her torn for almost a year. She had been undecided about whether to marry her live-in boyfriend, Vincent. He didn’t share her religious beliefs and refused to go with her to church, but she knew that he was the best man for her.
He laughed at her silly antics, talked with her about her ambitions and encouraged her to greatness. He made her the focal point of his life and involved her in every decision no matter how minute. But it was his touch that held her hostage, kept her toying with God’s love by giving herself to a man who was not her husband.
With her head bowed to hide the free-flowing tears, she exited the church without speaking to anyone. She sat in her Mercedes S550, took a moment to freshen her makeup, expelled a sigh of relief. She looked to Heaven through the panorama sunroof, smiled, closed her eyes, gave thanks. The decision to accept Vincent’s proposal resonated; filled her with peace as she trusted the Lord with her soul mate.
The thirty-minute drive from the inner-city church to her suburban home gave her ample time to reflect upon the life they would build together: three children, business partnership and unlimited mind-blowing sex. The rush of blood to her southern bell—the name her mother called her vagina when she was a child—gave her pause. Fortunately, she was stopped at a red light. She clicked through the Sirius Satellite stations and then opted to enjoy tunes Vincent had downloaded to her iPod a few nights prior.
As she turned into Creekwood Estates—a lavish community north of Dayton—she admired the mansion-sized homes set hundreds of feet from the street. Manicured lawns featured rows of exotic trees, shrubbery and blooming flowers. Cobblestone driveways boasted luxury cars and backyards had customized gym sets or in-ground pools.
Her stucco and brick palatial home was small in comparison to those of her neighbors, but it was big enough for her family-to-be. She loved the side-entry, three-car garage because it camouflaged the unpacked moving boxes from passersby. She parked in the usual spot—closest to the mudroom door—and then she smiled wide. “He’s home.”
Debra grabbed her purse and Bible and then jaunted into the house. She placed her belongings on the granite countertop, careful not to make noise. Since the television wasn’t locked on a sporting event, Vincent had to be resting in the master suite. A 3,500-square-foot home and he preferred the family room and bedroom.
She slipped off her stilettos, tiptoed up the stairs. Her heart beat faster with each step. She wiped her palms together to dry the sweaty moisture, pressed her ear to the door. His subtle snores seeped through. She giggled and then covered her mouth to halt the escape of more laughter.
She opened the door, peeked in, swung it wide. “Vincent! What the devil?”
“Debra, what are you doing here?” After a quick dismount, he rummaged the floor for his Fruit of the Looms. “When’d you get home?”
“Who is this woman and why is she in my bed?” She ran to the side of the bed, towered over her betrayer. Breath stalled in her throat, eyes widened. “Catherine!”
Catherine—the first person to welcome Debra to the neighborhood—reached for her clothes, scurried to dress.
Debra lunged at her, snatched her by the ponytail, drew back her fist. Just as she connected with Catherine’s right jaw, Vincent grabbed Debra around the waist, pulled her away. She flailed her arms, kicked at his shins, head-butted him in the mouth. When he released her, she pursued Catherine who was halfway down the stairs, underwear in tow.
What Others Are Saying
“A brilliant writer. I love her work. The characters are so real, so rich and fleshed out so well. You hit the nail on the head with these women. Can I have the rights to the movie?”
Mother Love, TV and radio host of The Mother Love Show
“I started to skim through this book, but now I cannot put it down. This is an incredible book that all women must read.”
Lexi, talk-show host of The Lexi Show as seen on The Word Network
“Coleman lays the hard-hitting arsenal out in the open in this refreshing and looong-awaited new spin on an ageless battle to tame the flesh! Goody Box is a woman’s must-have, must-READ handbook. Goody Box will have you pledging heart-gasm before orgasm!”
Dr. Vivi Monroe Congress, author of Manna for Mamma and The Bankrupt Spirit
