Have you ever admired those successful people who seem to “have it all?” You see them chatting confidently at business meetings, and comfortably at social parties. They’re the ones with the best jobs, the nicest spouses, the finest friends, the biggest bank accounts, the most fashionable zip codes.
But wait a minute! A lot of them aren’t smarter than you. They’re not more educated than you. They’re not even better looking! So what is it? (Some people suspect they inherited it. Others say they married it, or were just plain lucky. Tell them to think again.) What it boils down to is their more skillful way of dealing with fellow human beings.
This book – which has been on the top of best-seller books around the world – gives you the tools to become a Master Communicator in life, love, and business.
- Master “small talk,” then quickly turn it into meaningful communicating.
- Sound like an insider in any crowd — no matter how little you have in common.
- Never be stuck for something interesting to say again.
- Learn how to always look confident, credible and charismatic.
- Discover ways to talk so people listen — and listen so people talk.
- Turn social situations into professional opportunities.
- Work a convention or business gathering the way a politician works a room.
- Discover your most advantageous answer to “What do you do?”
- Learn to deal with a wide variety of personalities.
- Turn the fiercest tigers into pussycats.
- Pick up on what people are not saying – but they are thinking. Detect when someone is lying to you.
- Discern if he or she is romantically attracted to you.
- Practice “The Weekend Method” to become a more fascinating person.
How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Indeed this book was definitively different than the majority of books I read, and I have to say I am rather glad I was willing to step outside my comfort zone. Leil Lowndes is a very practical author who gives you all sorts of tricks to help you succeed in the most basic of human interactions–communication. While I cannot say I could aptly apply all 92 techniques, I must say her ideas gave me a lot to ponder.
First of all, I am no a business professional. I have no desire to penetrate the corporate world, and sometimes I think the techniques are geared definitely towards those in that world. However, I have to say that the techniques detailed in this book do go beyond that. As a teacher, I would not be able to use every one of these techniques in the classroom. (I think she write one for teachers! I would definitely read it!) I was quite glad to realize that some of the techniques I already do use. And that is why I think the students with whom I come in contact like me so well–for the most part.
Secondly, I would say my favorite part of the book was that the chapters were so short! I like to read an entire chapter before I stop reading, and it was nice to know that if I had two or three minutes to spare, I could read a chapter. I also loved the fact that she had so many real world examples.
And finally, while this book sometimes did not apply to my current situation, if nothing else, it gave me a lot to think about. I had never considered the way I might com across on the phone or how I deal with people’s foibles. I had not considered every contacting a celebrity, but thanks to this book, I think I just might give it a try. I don’t think I could make someone fall in love with me, but I think i could at least go out of my comfort zone in a group of people I do not know. She has indeed challenged me to put some of these techniques into practice, and I can assure you I shall!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Leil Lowndes is an internationally recognized communications expert who specializes in the subconscious interactions that take place in all interpersonal communications. She has spoken and conducted hundreds of seminars for major corporations, associations, and the public in every city in the US and some internationally.
She is the author of 10 top-selling books on communication skills for business, social relationships, and love. Some have been translated into 26 languages.
A wide variety of publications have applauded Leil’s work including Time Magazine, Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Chicago Tribune, Los Angeles Times, Psychology Today and the Huffington Post. She has appeared as the guest expert on countless national television shows and news programs on all four major networks.
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